Date Night, the Movie, and the “Cheerios Test"

Last night, a couple walked into our store and it was his 40th birthday.  They are a beautiful couple, however, exhausted by 2 young kids and it was “date night”.  The minute they walked into our fine lingerie store, they started squabbling.  The woman claimed, “after two kids, she could not wear anything in the store”, she was a “AA” cup after breast feeding two children, (she was beautiful by the way, long torso, gorgeous body and stunning face. She had lost herself and her femininity in the day to day juggle of kids and responsibilities.  She then exclaimed that “she could not wear fine lingerie pouring cheerios for the kids in the morning!”

The couple were going out to dinner, and I greeted them with an open mind, seeing how He was wanting to enhance their relationship, and also sensing how much he absolutely adored his wife.  She could not find herself, through her mommy body, and he was seeing her as the goddess that she truly is.

We tend to see this all the time in our store, 40 somethings, looking for intimacy, getting the “vibe” back post kids, still being exhausted with young ones (usually the kids are 2 years apart), but still wanting to capture the essence and closeness of what they shared PK (pre kids).

They came in right at closing, we had a shared a bottle of wine, and about ½ way through their experience, we were having lots of laughs in the process.  We went into the dressing room, she was tall, small busted and a great body, maybe a touch bit of “hail damage” (cellulite), but nothing we could not work with, it was so faint, that only she could really notice it.  Men look at their wives so much differently than we look at ourselves.  It’s an amazing thought to remind yourself of throughout your relationship.  Men see us as beautiful creatures, no matter what cellulite, a tummy, no boobs, droopy breasts, they adore us the way we are. If you can master this concept, as a woman getting your body back after kids, you can have a wonderful relationship without all the “hang ups”.  Love your man ladies and love yourself!

So as we were playing dress up, we were doing the “Cheerios test”.  The Cheerios test was a compromise between what she could sleep in, and when the kids walked in on them after a bad dream in the middle of the night, and what would be sexy enough for him, show off her beautiful figure, and be able to pour Cheerios in the morning getting the kids ready for school.  Impossible you say?

With her figure, we tried on many chemises (short dresses), with her long torso we needed a bit longer chemises, to also cover the top of her thighs, but still be sexy and short enough. She also needed to feel comfortable with the slight “hail damage” she may have had, but once again, so faint.  It was real to her, and you never discount how a woman feels, just make them see a different perspective in the mirror!

We tried on many  lacey, yet solid chemises, found a beautiful semi-sheer robe and proceeded to do the “Cheerios test”.  Throughout the experience she started liking her body, even loving it.  She never knew she could look as beautiful as she felt in the mirror.  She started strutting a bit of confidence and her husband was really happy with this.  After all, it was his 40th birthday!  We found plenty of things that her “AA’s” fit into.  Her smaller chest looked beautiful, just needed the proper fit to flaunt them in the right way.

They left the store with pearls.  After all, every woman needs a strand of pearls!  Bracli pearls from Spain, a thong designed for fun for both of them.  We mastered the Cheerios test, made her feel beautiful, made his 40th birthday and their date night, and was not the slightest bit unhappy I had to stay late to make this couple feel as amazing as they felt going off to dinner.  She even wore her Braclis to dinner!

So if you don’t think Date Night can be fun, and if you want to capture what you had originally in your relationship, find a great fine lingerie store, experiment with a fit specialist you can trust, have fun with it, and of course, do the “Cheerios test!”.