Bringing a woman to orgasm is not always easy. Only about a third of all women reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone (vaginal orgasm). But should man do so that she also comes?
Why do women not always come to orgasm?
Most men hopefully know: a woman should be able to relax during sex and wants to trust her partner. But it’s not just external circumstances that decide whether you come or not. Foreplay, the stimulation of the vagina, but also the right technique play a role. With our tips you will learn what helps a woman during sex to arrive at the peak of pleasure.
1. Seduction starts with a laugh
Many women like to be entertained before going to bed. So convince with humor and let your charm play. This doesn’t mean you should make a fool of yourself or tell crude jokes. Subtle, intelligent humor definitely impresses most women more than push-button laughs. If you get it right and hit the right nerve, you’ll create the perfect foundation for sensitive climaxes.
2. Heat her up all day long
In concrete terms: Your sweetheart should think about sex with you constantly from the moment she gets up until the hot number in the evening. The best way to achieve this is to send her messages with explicit content throughout the day. And no, it should not necessarily be nude pictures. Try to put into words what you want to do with her after work. I bet that it makes her extremely hot to read in the office already, how you wanted to wander in the evening with your fingers slowly up the insides of her thighs, to…
3. Take care of relaxation
Relaxation is the most important factor for the female orgasm. So don’t rush and make your beloved feel like she has the whole night to do it. Light some candles and put on some quiet music. The more you make it clear that you’re patient, the easier it is for her to let herself go – and eventually explode.
4. Kisses with passion
This awakens in her the desire to be pampered elsewhere, such as on the belly or between the thighs. Then lick your way into the pleasure center with a gentle tongue, over the outer labia to the inner ones. Put your hand on her belly: if you feel a twitch, she is almost ready.
5. Make her feel safe
Some women definitely worry too much about their appearance and feel insecure naked. Take away her fear by giving her compliments. Preferably before she gets naked and even more so when she does. You won’t believe what a simple “wow” will do when she stands naked in front of you.
6. Put your hand on
Start by running your fingers lightly over her soft skin. Delicately and slowly graze along the labia minora. Increase the pressure only when your partner’s arousal increases. Then you can also massage the clitoris with your fingers, preferably in a steady rhythm and at best not too long. Otherwise it can quickly become unpleasant for her. If she is wet enough, you can slowly penetrate her with your index finger. Just pay attention to her reaction; in case of doubt, the woman will signal you with her body language (or even clear words) what is good for her now.
7. Ladies first!
Be a gentleman and satisfy your sweetheart’s lust first, however she likes it. And then you get your money’s worth. Unlike a man, a woman can still take a penis inside her after she comes. Ergo: Use the moment of her orgasm to heat yourself up at that incredibly satisfying moment and come after her.
8. The subtle difference: stay on the straight and narrow
While men don’t know how to turn back from a certain point and just come, women can suddenly slow down from 200 to 0 – for example, if you deviate just a little from what you’re doing right now. If you pause for just a moment, sometimes that’s it. Of course, many women like it when you vary the techniques in between. But once you find the winning path, stay on it until you reach your goal.
What is the fastest or most guaranteed way for a woman to reach orgasm?
Since every woman is different, has different preferences and prefers different hotspots, there is no universal answer to this question. What is certain, however, is that the more you indulge a woman in her hotspots, cater to her desires and needs, and put your own pleasure (at least temporarily) in second place, the more likely she is to orgasm. According to a study, women almost always climax when they get into the enjoyment of the following 3 things: 1. passionate kisses, 2. manual stimulation of the vagina, 3. Oral sex.
9. The right movements
Slow movements stimulate many women more than fast ones. If she wants to go higher, you’ll notice, or she’ll tell you. Penetrate the first third of the vagina shallowly. This is where most of the nerve endings are located – especially if she is swollen with arousal.
10. Keep it varied
Try role-playing games – they promise sizzling eroticism. Make a date with your flame for the evening. Meet at a bar, carnival or movie theater, but act like two strangers just getting to know each other. Never go too fast when flirting – delay increases the tension, making for a memorable finale.
Conclusion: More climaxes for her bring you more sex
If you follow our tips, you will not only do something for your beloved, but also for yourself. Because if your partner orgasms more often, she’ll develop a more positive attitude towards sex. She becomes more open-minded, probably wants to have more sex with you and is probably also more satisfied in the relationship.
- 1 Why do women not always come to orgasm?
- 2 1. Seduction starts with a laugh
- 3 2. Heat her up all day long
- 4 3. Take care of relaxation
- 5 4. Kisses with passion
- 6 5. Make her feel safe
- 7 6. Put your hand on
- 8 7. Ladies first!
- 9 8. The subtle difference: stay on the straight and narrow
- 10 What is the fastest or most guaranteed way for a woman to reach orgasm?
- 11 9. The right movements
- 12 10. Keep it varied
- 13 Conclusion: More climaxes for her bring you more sex